I read something really negative and hurtful about myself, on line, not too long ago. It was "disguised" as a "review" of my book, SPIRIT UNBROKEN, but it was really addressed at me...or was it? It didn't seem as if they had even read the book; it was more a case of just wanting to be negative. Or...did they read it and it struck a chord? Were they in discomfort because they had also been abused and were not doing so well...still... or were they even in denial...still. Or worse yet, were they an abuser themselves? The statistics of those who have been abused as children going on to abuse others is astounding. I discuss that too in the book; they are sad statistics, but true.
It was clear to me, later that day...because I did think about it, that the person who wrote these hateful and nasty words was not very happy in their own being and for some reason needed to hurt others. Today, it was directed at me and maybe a few others too. There is no "egotistical" writing about Childhood Abuse. The is no "delusional" for anyone who has been abused...even once! The writing is straight forward and candid. That might be a source of discomfort for some. Sometimes, that happens with the truth.
Child Abuse is everywhere in our country...it can't be kept a secret any longer. So, I stepped forward and wrote a book about it and yesterday, took one on the chin. But, I realized I didn't have to have everyone agree with me or even like what I wrote. What was important was that I was speaking up. Finally. It is a really fine book; I hope it touches and helps each person, in some way, who reads it.
As Abused Children...we are here, we are everywhere. At no time is it ever ok to pass along the hurt that you yourself are experiencing. Abuse, be it sexual, emotional, or verbal is never ok... when passed along to hurt another. The relief you feel is momentary and the long term consequences...unhealthy and damning. Take the higher ground when dealing with others. We always have that choice. We do not feel better as humans by hurting, trashing, or ABUSING... someone else.
